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When we think of funeral ceremonies in the UK, religious imagery typically comes to mind. Traditional funerals are the ones we most often see in the media and in real life scenarios, in many instances occurring in religious cemeteries and hushed churches. Many funerals in the UK incorporate aspects of Christianity, reflecting the country’s largest faith-based belief system. However, the religious landscape in the UK is evolving to incorporate more and more non-religious funeral services.
If you’re here because you’re planning a non-religious funeral service, or would like to know what to expect if attending one, we want to offer support during what might be a very difficult time for you. From providing resources like this article to offering direct funeral planning support from our dedicated team of funeral arrangers, the Aura Angels, Aura is here to help with whatever you need. This article will explain what non-religious funeral services are, and how to plan one.
A non-religious funeral is a ceremony designed to pay respects to the life of the person who has died without incorporating religious elements. These services focus on celebrating the person and their achievements, as well as their connections to family, friends, and the wider community. Often referred to as ‘secular funerals’, they provide an alternative option for people who do not adhere to religious beliefs.
Non-religious funerals are increasing in popularity, in part because of a decline of religion in the UK. They can take on many forms, including direct cremations, and people can even stipulate their preference for a non-regligious funeral in their funeral plan or end-of-life paperwork such as a will.
Unlike religious funerals, which often include prayers, scriptures, and hymns tied to a specific faith, non-religious services replace these elements with more personalised components such as anecdotes, poetry and music. Though these can also be added into religious services, non-religious funerals rely on them heavily to act as the core focus points of the gathering.
Personal anecdotes
Personal stories play a central role in non-religious funeral ceremonies, as they illustrate the individuality and legacy of the person who has died. Secular funerals will usually go for a deeply personal and customised approach, with these accounts from friends, family and colleagues becoming the heart of the ceremony. By sharing memorable moments, life milestones and everyday interactions, a vivid picture of the person is collectively painted, often sparking laughter, tears, and a sense of connection among attendees.
Tributes
Tributes can take on many forms, from spoken eulogies to creative expressions such as poems, letters, or multimedia presentations. Some families put together memory walls or books, inviting attendees to contribute; others pair photos with music, audio or videos. It’s all about creating something that feels aligned with what their loved one would have wanted.
Speakers often choose to focus on the person’s character, values, and the impact they had on others, highlighting both strengths and ‘quirks’ to create an authentic picture of the person. They might also feel called to express love and gratitude for the role the person had played in their life, pairing happy memories and reflection with a sense of sadness for the loss they now feel. These tributes are so effective because they share multiple perspectives, inviting different people to share about their unique relationship to the person who has died.
Secular readings, such as poetry or literature
Readings that speak to the life and values of the person who has died are particularly poignant within the context of a non-religious funeral ceremony. There might even be stories about death that have been specifically chosen by the person who has died, therefore providing attendees an ongoing shared relationship to these selections. They offer a personal touch, and might draw from both or either classic or more modern and contemporary texts or even personal writings such as letters or journal entries.
Music
Music is often a main element of any style of funeral, including non-religious ones. Usually, the music selected for these types of funerals is a selection of favorites of the person who has died. Some families hire musicians to perform renditions of these songs, or provide lyrics for attendees to sing along with instead of hymns, for example.
Non-religious funerals are flexible and inclusive events. This spaciousness empowers families to create a ceremony that truly reflects their loved one’s personality, values and style.
Even if a person chooses a no-fuss funeral, the preference for non-religious proceedings can still be honoured. A direct cremation is a more affordable alternative to a traditional funeral, and does not include the ceremonial aspects normally included in one, such as pallbearers, a hearse or a funeral procession. Instead, the person who has died is taken privately to the crematorium on the day of the cremation, and the ashes are then hand-delivered back to the next of kin at a later date.
With Aura, an unattended direct cremation means there are no mourners present, while an attended direct cremation allows for either a shorter, more intimate gathering or a larger, longer service – whichever suits best. In the case of an unattended ceremony, this might look like requesting a specific non-religious song to be played as your loved one is going to be cremated, or having some personal items placed inside of the coffin.
For attended services, you can ask for the crematorium staff to remove any religious items from the chapel where your loved one will be waiting upon your arrival. You could also go about hiring a humanist celebrant to lead the ceremony, or create your own family-led orders of service for the day. There are a wide variety of options when it comes to how you can personalise and pay tribute during a non-religious service.
With Aura’s direct cremations, you’re able to dictate how you’d like the ceremony to go with the help and guidance of our Aura Angels. As experts in funeral arranging, they offer compassionate service and an empathetic ear during the most challenging of times. When the time comes to appoint a funeral director, we will be with you every step of the way to help with organising paperwork and getting everything in order.
Aura was founded by Paul Jameson after his own personal experience confronting mortality following his motor-neurone-disease diagnosis. He wished to create a company that embodied the type of care he wished for his own family. We are committed to providing every family with the same level of care and support we would expect for our own loved ones.
Though you might think the openness of non-religious funerals would make planning more simple, it’s not always the case. Since religious funerals draw from a pool of specific materials and structures, sometimes planning a more unstructured funeral is a little more time consuming, with more decisions needing to be made.
Approaching the process can look something like this:
Which funeral director you select can go a long way in helping bring your vision for the day to life. Aura is here to support you in providing a personalised and memorable experience, whether you’re looking to plan a simple direct cremation, a more involved attended direct cremation, or plan ahead with a prepaid funeral plan. If you’re interested in purchasing a plan to protect your loved ones from the financial, emotional and logistical burdens of arranging a funeral at a difficult time, it’s considered good practice to compare funeral plans to make sure you find one that fits your needs the best.
The venue plays an important role in setting the intended tone of the funeral. Popular choices include:
Holding separate, more personalised gatherings after a funeral is also becoming a more popular practice. This allows for the logistical ease of utilising established crematoria locations while also providing a more casual atmosphere for commemoration afterwards.
A professional celebrant or officiant experienced in non-religious services can help guide the ceremony, ensuring it is structured, kept on time, and runs smoothly. They can also help focus the day, organising elements such as readings, music, and other types of tributes such as symbolic acts like lighting candles or planting trees.
It’s worth looking into how much a celebrant costs in your area to gauge whether this would be something you’d like to incorporate into your plans.
Replacing traditional religious rituals with meaningful alternatives is a great way of carving out structure with a secular funeral. You may start with a list of ideas, or draw from instructions left by your loved one, and go from there. These elements can include what we’ve covered above, such as selections from literature and significant music.
With Aura’s prepaid funeral plans, you’re able to pay for your funeral at today’s cost, ensuring everything is taken care of when the time comes. Our five-star-rated plans are all-inclusive with no hidden costs, so there’s nothing left for your loved ones to pay.
With prepaid plans, you can let us know what your wishes are for your funeral down to the minute details. If you’d like a non-religious ceremony and cremation, you’re able to leave instructions about what you would and would not like included in the service when it comes time for your appointed person to arrange it.
Aura is regulated by the Financial Conduct Authority (FCA), and our plans are protected by the Financial Services Compensation Scheme (FSCS). You can rest assured that, when you purchase a prepaid funeral plan from Aura, your money is secure. Our dedication to our customers has earned us a Trustpilot rating of 4.9/5 stars, making us the highest rated ‘Cremation Services’ provider on the platform in the UK.
Because beliefs on death and funerals in religion do not play a factor in this type of service, your funeral options for the ceremony are quite varied. Non-religious funerals cater to diverse preferences, making each ceremony as unique as the person being celebrated.
These are the most common types of non-religious funerals:
Those who are eco-conscious or love nature may prefer green funerals, which focus on environmentally friendly practices and utilise natural elements. Options often include:
A celebration of life is an informal approach to a funeral, sharing positive memories through a more casual gathering. This type of service focuses on celebrating and reflecting on the joyful moments and achievements of a person’s life, rather than centring on their death.
By looking into different types of funerals and their costs, you can pinpoint what type of service speaks most to your loved one and your family.
Families can honour their loved one’s memory in a multitude of ways. Here are some ideas:
Non-religious funerals go by various names depending on the style and preferences of the family. Some common terms include ‘celebration of life’, ‘humanist funeral’, or ‘memorial service’.
Attending a non-religious funeral may raise questions about etiquette and expectations. All in all, funeral etiquette in the UK is much the same for both non-religious and religious funerals. There are, however, some potential differences. Here’s how to navigate this unique experience:
Appropriate attire
While families organising traditional, religious funerals often expect attendees to wear formal black attire, non-religious ceremonies may encourage attendees to wear bright or specific colours or clothing that reflects their loved one’s personality. This is not a rule, though, and the family will directly request this prior to the ceremony so you’ll know what to expect.
Secular etiquette
Non-religious funerals are a testament to the individuality and spirit of the person who has died. Whether it’s through a simple cremation or a celebration of life, these services provide a meaningful way to say goodbye. For those planning or attending a secular service, the emphasis remains on respect, remembrance, and celebrating the unique journey of life.
If you’re thinking about planning a non-religious funeral for yourself or a loved one, Aura is here to help. We pride ourselves on our respectful, patient and compassionate approach to customer service. Our dedicated team of Aura Angels is here to guide you, and answer any questions you may have. If you need us, please get in touch.
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